Genesis 5020

Stories for His Glory

Groomed by Elizabeth Melendez Fisher Good February 19, 2020

Filed under: Book Reviews,Uncategorized — Melissa Finnegan @ 6:33 pm



Someone in your past sold you a false story about who you are and what you’re worth. It has been holding you back for too long. Take control of your future.
A staggering one out of three women in America was a victim of sexual abuse at some point in her childhood. No matter how many years it’s been, if that’s your story, those scars are probably still with you. But even if that’s not part of your story, this book is for you. Women today have been groomed for a lot more than just sex.
Using her own story of abuse, family tragedy, and rebellion, Elizabeth Melendez Fisher guides readers toward an understanding that grooming is oftentimes subtle, but it’s always life-altering. In Groomed Fisher incorporates the language and lessons gained over the past decade working with sex trafficking victims and her work in ministry and counseling before that. She draws out five specific ways that women have been groomed, from physical appearance to spirituality to finances, and shows how those manipulative messages have affected the way we see our worth and how they’ve oftentimes stifled and limited us. From there Fisher offers readers a way to overcome their past, starting with the all-important but rarely explored idea of a selah, or a time of rest and reflection, and exploring active ways to forgive and move forward to a new level of freedom.
No one has to be defined by her past. No one has to live for her groomers. It’s time to take a look back at where we came from to escape the messages of our past and take control of our future.

My thoughts:

As a sexual abuse survivor when I hear the word “groomed” I often think about it in those terms. Abusers groom their victims. But this book give a different bend to that word.

We can still think of the word in those terms but also in other ways. I was definitely groomed to please people, to look good on the outside no matter the turmoil going on inside of me.

We can be groomed for many different things, such as being invisible, pleasing others, looking good, being a leader, assertive.

I appreciate Elizabeth’s ministry and what she is doing to help women who have been trafficked. I also enjoyed Elizabeth’s openness and honestly in sharing her story, which at times was hard to read.

Have you been groomed? You might be surprised what you discover.

Visit Elizabeth here.

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A copy of this book was given to me through All opinions are my own.