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Hot Mama: 12 Secrets To A Sizzling Hot Marriage September 24, 2015

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“These hot mamas tell you how you can stop feeling ‘whatever’ about sex and start feeling ‘woo-hoo!'”–Sheila Wray Gregoire, author of The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex

It’s easy for us moms to slip into the habit of letting the craziness of our days interfere with our relationships with our husbands. We simply don’t have the energy or the ideas for a spicy, satisfying sex life. We’re usually just amazed we made it to the end of the day without collapsing or throttling someone.

Hot Mama to the rescue!

In this witty book, hot mamas Kathi Lipp and Erin MacPherson share hilarious stories and creative ideas from moms everywhere to help you build a relationship with your spouse that’s happy, healthy, and fun. From building confidence and banishing guilt to flirting (remember that?) and wearing clothes that get you–and him–in the mood, Kathi and Erin show you how to take your sex life from ho-hum to sizzling hot.

Kathi Lipp is the author of Praying God’s Word for Your Husband, The Husband Project, and I Need Some Help Here! She is a conference and retreat speaker who reaches thousands of women each year and has been a guest on numerous national radio programs, including Focus on the Family. She and her husband have four children and live in California. Learn more at

Erin MacPherson
is a wife, mom, speaker, and writer. She is a staff writer and editor for a number of major online parenting and educational publications, including Nickelodeon and Dun & Bradstreet. Her popular blog,, offers women godly, tell-it-like-it-is advice and information. She and her husband have three children and live in Texas.

My thoughts:

The tone of this book is light and fun. The two authors have a great style that will put you at ease as you read.

This book is full of helpful hints and truths that can add a little spice to your marriage. It will take effort but if you want your marriage to change then you need to put forth the effort.

Each chapter ends with a pledge for us to make to take steps to change. Then real woman share how they have put some of these practices in to practice and the positive results they’ve had.

I will say there wasn’t a lot of new information for me, but it was a good refresher and a reminder of the importance of putting my husband first.

If you struggle with intimacy in your marriage this book might give you some new ideas of how to add a little spice to your life.

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Grab your copy at your local bookstore, Amazon, Barnes and Noble,, Books-A-Million, Deeper Shopping or your favorite retailer.

A copy of this book was given to me by the publisher in exchange for an honest review. 


Married ‘Til Monday by Denise Hunter July 2, 2015

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With a big anniversary party in the works for her parents, Ryan will pretend to be Abby’s husband for just one last weekend.

Ryan McKinley has tried to move on from his ex-wife, Abby. He’s sulked, he’s gotten angry, and ultimately he bought her dream house. Big mistake. Living alone in the massive 2-story has only made him miss her more. When her parents call him out of the blue about their anniversary party in Summer Harbor, Maine, Ryan believes God has dropped a golden opportunity straight in his lap.

Abby McKinley never exactly told her parents about the divorce. A strained relationship with her dad has culminated in a distant relationship with her parents, but she’s finally succumbed to her mom’s pressure to make the drive for their 35th-anniversary party.

Then Ryan shows up on her doorstep, looking as devastatingly handsome as ever. When he insists he’s going to Seabrook, with or without her, Abby knows she can’t say no. Her parents still think they’re married and now Ryan knows it too. Besides, he only wants to check in with his best friend from college-her cousin Beau, who just lost his dad. It’s just a one-week road-trip with the man who broke her heart. What could possibly go wrong?

About the Author

Bestselling novelist Denise Hunter has received the Holt Medallion Award, Reader’s Choice Award, Foreword Book of the Year Award, and is a RITA finalist. She lives in Indiana with her husband and their three sons. Twitter: @deniseahunter Facebook: authordenisehunter

My thoughts:

I have only ever read a novella by Denise and I really liked that. So I was excited to read a full-length book by her. Can I just say this won’t be my last?

Wow. She created a story with two characters that I was totally rooting for.

Abby is a very broken young women. She has turned her back on God and has nothing to cling to now except her career. Her family is a mess and she carries the wounds her father inflicted on her.

Ryan just wants his wife back. He doesn’t really understand what happened, why their marriage ended. But as the layers are peeled back he begins to see what Abby has been carrying all these years.

This book is full of wonderful scenes that draw these two together. I love stories of hope in marriage and this book is definitely that. It’s truly beautiful and I highly recommend this one.

Visit Denise here.

Grab your copy at your local bookstore, Amazon, Barnes and Noble,, Books-A-Million or your favorite retailer.

An e-copy of this book was given to me by the publisher through the BookLook Blogger program in exchange for an honest review.



The Mingling of Souls by Matt Chandler May 5, 2015

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The Song of Solomon offers strikingly candid—and timeless—insights on romance, dating, marriage, and sex. We need it. Because emotions rise and fall with a single glance, touch, kiss, or word. And we are inundated with songs, movies, and advice that contradicts God’s design for love and intimacy.Matt Chandler helps navigate these issues for both singles and marrieds by revealing the process Solomon himself followed: Attraction, Courtship, Marriage … even Arguing. The Mingling of Souls will forever change how you view and approach love.
My thoughts:
I grabbed this book because my daughter’s youth pastor recommended it for non-married couples and they (the youth) were going to be working through the book with the kids at a level that was appropriate for them. I have read a lot of marriage books and walk away disappointed most of the time.
But this book made sense to me, even though I am already married. I do highly recommend this book for any couple who is dating or any single person is wants to date and have a God honoring reletionship. This is an excellent guide and resource for building a marriage as God intended.
Yet, even as a married person I gleaned a lot of good information from this book. Particularly the chapter on Fighting Fair. I wish I had read this BEFORE I was married because we have established a way of communicating that probably isn’t really effective. Of course we make changes now but it’s always hard to end one habit and start another.
This is a book I would highly encourage my children to read as they get older and anyone who is single. But like I said, I believe even us old married people can learn a lot from this book.
Grab your copy at your local bookstore, Amazon, Barnes and Noble,, Books-A-Million or your favorite retailer.
An e-copy of this book was given to my by the publisher through in exchange for an honest review.

Never Fight Again…..Guaranteed! by David Hawkins August 21, 2014

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Book Description:

What do couples fight about most? Is it sex, money, children, in-laws, or time management? The answer is: “none of the above. Couples can get into power struggles over anything. It is not any specific subject, but the act of fighting, that drives us. We want what we don’t have and will fight to get it. And this drives a wedge between us and the ones we love.

In this book Dr. David Hawkins, bestselling author, psychologist, and advice columnist, outlines a plan of action to assure that you “Never Fight Again . . . Guaranteed!” Dr. Hawkins argues for a paradigm shift that will take your relationship from one built on selfishness to one of sacrificial love. Once we do that, we give up the fight, care for ourselves and those around us, and change our hearts for the better.

My thoughts:

Whenever I see something that says guaranteed I am a bit hesitant about believing it. But when I saw this book I thought, “why not?” I would love to never fight again with my husband.

Here’s the thing, if we did the stuff this book says we wouldn’t ever fight again. But honestly, I have to wonder how healthy some of the suggestions are? I worried that I would be keeping everything bottled up and eventually I would blow.

With that being said there is a lot of good advice in this book and I highlighted some things that clicked with me.

One issue I struggle with is getting defensive. Hawkins states “Defensiveness is the feeling we must master if we want to succeed at never fighting again.” That’s so true. If I didn’t get defensive over the things my husband said or pointed out we wouldn’t fight.

He also said something about expectation that resonated with me: “When I hear the word, expectation, I often substitute the word demand in its place. Why? Because for many, an expectation is just that.” Yikes. I see that in my marriage.

So, even though I thought some of this stuff was a no brainer other parts made sense to me. Will my husband and I fight again? Guaranteed…but at least now I am a bit more aware of my actions and hopefully we will process things differently.

Visit David here.

A copy of this book was given to me by the publisher through in exchange for an honest review.


Waters Fall by Becky Doughty July 3, 2014

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waters fallAbout:

Jake doesn’t remember what it means to be a champion.

Nora doesn’t know how much longer she can tread water before she goes under.

Their fairytale marriage is hurtling toward a tragic end.

Then Tristan sweeps in—all feelings and fire and freedom—and Nora is carried out to where the waters flow fast and deep. Nora knows she’s risking far more than just her heart….

When it all comes crashing down, Jake and Nora are left standing amidst the ruins of everything they’ve built together. Will they walk away, or stay and fight for their happily-ever-after?

Waters Fall is a poignant story of a marriage on the rocks. It’s the anatomy of an affair, the price of forgiveness, and the terrible beauty of grace.

My thoughts:

I’ll be honest, at first the cover gave me pause, it seemed a bit risky for a Christian book but I moved past that and read the back cover and knew this was a book I had to read.

Becky did a great job of showing what a slow fade the destruction of marriage can go under. It can just sneak up on you. You think you are just entertaining thoughts that won’t hurt anyone but temptation gives birth to sin and sin to death.

This is what happens to Nora, she stumbles across Tristan and he blossoms under the light of his gaze. She feels things she hasn’t felt in a long time. She runs the first time and her counselor’s words echo in her head. But she stops meeting with her counselor and the truth gets drowned out by the lies of the enemy.

This book was so real. I know I have felt many times that I have prayed and prayed for change but don’t see God moving. I start to question what’s He doing, why doesn’t He answer, is He even listening?

Yet, this book is full of hope and God’s redeeming love, a love only He can give.

If you’re looking for a good women’s fiction book that touches on a tough subject then I highly recommend this book.

Visit Becky here.

Grab a copy at Amazon (only $o.99).

A copy of this book was given to me by the publisher through in exchange for an honest review.


Marriage Takes Three by G.E. Hamlin April 14, 2014

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Marriage Takes Three – Blurb

Darla Connor is struggling with whether to stay in her troubled marriage or walk away. Maintaining a long distance friendship with an old sweetheart isn’t making the decision easier, especially when that sweetheart, now a famous country music star declares his love for her, even though she is married. Randall Connor is a recovering alcoholic and wants to heal his broken marriage, and as a new believer, he is counting on God to help him. When Darla rejects his ultimatum to sever ties with her old boyfriend, he’s in for the battle of his life. Will Darla follow promises of a better life with her old boyfriend, or will she surrender to God in time to save her marriage?

My thoughts:

This is a message that is dear to my heart and I love G.E.’s heart for this message. Marriage truly does take three and we can’t do it without God in the center. It’s simply too hard.

Because of my own story I was drawn to this one, especially to Darla, the wife. I wanted to see how G.E. portrayed her.

I did understand Darla, her heart is so hard, I remember being there and the confusion can be overwhelming.

However, I didn’t fully connect with this story. I hate to say that because this book is getting great reviews, but I also need to give my honest opinion. I felt the message didn’t unroll naturally but was a bit forced. If this was a non-fiction book that would have been fine but this is fiction and I want to really get into the story and I had a lot of trouble connecting with the characters. Something was missing for me.

But with that being said, this is a powerful book and has a message that so many people need to hear today. I do believe this is a book God would be proud of because it is His hope for all of us who are married.

As always, I encourage you to form your own opinions and read the book for yourself if it sounds like one you might like.

I just interviewed Ginny last week. If you missed it click here to learn more about her.

Visit her website here.

Grab a copy at your local bookstore, Amazon, or Barnes and Noble.

A copy of this book was given to me by the publisher through in exchange for an honest review.


Write to the Point with G.E. Hamlin April 9, 2014

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Today we get write to the point with G.E. Hamlin. Read to the end, she has a giveaway. This is a book I can’t wait to read. (I will be reviewing it next week!!)

G.E. Hamlin (Ginny) passionately writes about broken marriages and the restorative power of Jesus Christ. Her stories stem from personal experiences and working in lay ministry as a member of her church. Her characters encounter the natural consequences of addiction to: alcohol, drugs, and sexual immorality. It is Ginny’s hope each story will create a bridge for discussion in real life.


Ginny has been a member of ACFW (American Christian Fiction Writers) for over six years. Her style of writing reflects the qualities of Nicholas Sparks’ soft side and the fast pace of James Patterson.

She and her husband Ed have a blended family with five adult children and eight grandchildren. Ginny and her husband live in Southern California where they enjoy the beach, desert, and mountains. As a full time author, she is blessed with frequent opportunities to spend time with the grandchildren.

Tell us about yourself, family, where are you from, how long have you been writing?

I am a born and raised Californian, growing up in the northern and southern areas of the state. I have a blended family and recently celebrated the fourteenth anniversary of meeting my husband. We have five children and eight amazing and wonderful grandchildren between us.

I started making up bedtime stories for my children in the late seventies. I’d encourage them to pick a few characters, which included: playmates, animals, and often inanimate objects. Once the cast of characters was set, I’d have them pick a setting and tell me what they wanted the characters to do — a goal. My passion for storytelling was born during those years with my two little ones.


The desire to create stories never left me, but with adult children I no longer had an audience. I prayed about what God wanted me to do with the desire to create stories. I believe God directed me to ACFW (American Christian Fiction Writers, which went by another name at that time) via my online search for Christian novels. I’ve been a member for over six years and the blessings are too numerous to count, one of which includes contracting with my publisher, Chalfont House/HopeSprings Books.


I write Christian fiction with a focus on broken marriages, and the restorative power of Jesus Christ. My husband and I are passionate about placing God at the center of our marriage and encouraging other married couples to do the same, thus the title of my debut novel Marriage Takes Three.


How did you come to know Jesus as your Savior?

I invited Jesus into my life on April 01, 2001. Yes, April Fool’s Day. 😉

My teenage daughter, who came to know Jesus about six-months before me, was a gentle witness of what Christ was doing in her life; through watching her, and the prayers of her and many others, I agreed to “visit” the church my daughter attended. Thankfully, that one visit changed my life.


Tell us about your latest book(s). What do want your readers to take away after the last page?

My debut novel “Marriage Takes Three” which is scheduled for release from Chalfont House/HopeSprings books April 02, 2014, is amarriage takes three story about a woman, Darla Connor, who is struggling with whether to stay in her troubled marriage or walk away. Maintaining a long distance friendship with an old sweetheart isn’t making the decision easier, especially when that sweetheart, now a famous country music star, declares his love for her, even though she is married. Darla Connor’s husband, Randall Connor, is a recovering alcoholic and wants to heal his broken marriage. As a new believer, he is counting on God to help him. When Darla rejects his ultimatum to sever ties with her old boyfriend, he’s in for the battle of his life. Jack Collins, the protagonist, feels Darla is the only woman who truly loves him for who he is, and not the well-known country music artist he’s become. Jack’s goal is to give Darla everything her heart desires, but first he must get her to divorce Randall. Darla is at a precipice. Will she follow promises of ‘better to come’ with Jack, or if she will she surrender to God in time to save her marriage?


How often do you blog and what do you cover in your blog?

My blog, For Better or For Worse, is dedicated to relationships, and my posts generally have to do with marital highs, lows, and everything in-between. I have a section on my blog titled “Marriage Testimonies” and the posts are authored exclusively by the readers; anonymously, unless the author specifies otherwise. My hope is that the testimonies will encourage other married couples who may be walking through challenging times.


Can you share with us a favorite book you have read?

Terms of Endearment by author Larry McMurtry is my favorite novel, which was also turned into a screenplay by the same name. The author makes you believe the fascinating characters really exist. I walked away from the book feeling as though Aurora Greenway was actually off raising her grandchildren.


Can you share with us a Genesis 5020 in your life?

There are many verses that have ministered to me at different times in my life, keeping that in mind, one verse is near and dear to me since I became a believer and that verse is found in Matthew 17:20. Mustard seed faith has gotten me through many challenges. About six years ago three family members were diagnosed with cancer, my mother my husbands father, and my bonus (a.k.a. stepson) son’s mother in-law. The enemy could have stolen any of the hope that had been built by the Lord, however, God was merciful, and healing came through surgeries for all three, even though the diagnosis for each was bleak according to their doctors.


Do you have a life and/or a ministry verse?

Ephesians five was foundational scripture for my novel, Marriage Takes Three, and certainly applies to my own marriage.


Where can we find you on the web? Pre-order Marriage Takes Three

My Blog is

My main Facebook page is

My Facebook author Page is


You can find me on twitter

Linked In

My Goodreads profile is



Is there anything I didn’t ask that you would like to add?

I’m looking forward to the feedback from the readers about how the protagonist in my novel is received. There may be a novella in store for Jack Collins, also known as J.J. Collins, who portrays a country music artist in Marriage Takes Three. So please, all you readers, let me know if you’d like to see more of J.J. Collins.


Melissa, thank you for having me on your blog, it’s been my honor and pleasure. I look forward to responding to any questions or comments that your readers post.

You’re welcome Ginny. Thanks for sharing with my readers. I can’t wait to read your book!

Readers, Ginny is giving away an autographed copy of her book to one commentator. Leave a comment by April 15th at 5:00 to be entered in the drawing. Thanks!





The Passion Principles by Shannon Ethridge January 16, 2014

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The Passion Principles:

Celebrating Sexual Freedom in Marriage


Shannon Ethridge


Move beyond the mechanics of sex to a rich and rewarding connection

God’s desire is for couples to enjoy vibrant sexual relationships without inhibition, awkwardness, fear, resentment, guilt, or shame. With honesty and frankness, life coach and best-selling author Shannon Ethridge opens the minds of both husbands and wives to embrace a lifestyle of passion and pleasure.

Divided into four sections, “The Passion Principles” helps couples celebrate the spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical dimensions of sexuality. Questions include:

What was God thinking when He created sex?Why do humans think about sex so much?Will there be sex in heaven?How did we get such different ideas about sex and love?How can I get past his or her sexual past?How can I help my spouse heal from the sexual abuses he or she suffered?What if my heart is telling me I married the wrong person?How can we balance mismatched sex drives?

Some chapters end with questions for personal contemplation or for couples to use as conversation starters, and other chapters end with prayers that foster a deeper spiritual and emotional connection, making this book a perfect guide to a more passionate love life.

My thoughts:

I have read most of Shannon’s other books and have enjoyed them. Actually, they have been life changing for me. So I was eager to review The Passion Principles.

What I like about Shannon is she holds nothing back, she doesn’t skip the hard stuff or give fluffy answers. The questions on this book are questions we have all had at one time or another and Shannon answers are based on Biblical truth, what other kind if truth is there?

At the end of some questions (chapters) are a prayer you can do with your spouse or thoughts for your to ponder and discuss. What a concept. That’s missing from so many marriages. Praying with your spouse is a huge step in making your marriage strong and having open conversations about sensitive topics is also so needed but rarely done.

If you struggle with what is right or wrong, or normal or not when it comes to sex with your spouse you should consider grabbing a copy. It will open your eyes in a brand new way.

Visit Shannon’s website here.

Grab your copy at your local book store, Amazon, Barnes and Noble,, Deeper Shopping or Books-A-Million.

A ebook copy of this book was given to me by the publisher through in exchange for an honest review.


Dear God December 27, 2013

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I was looking through some old things that I’ve written and came across a letter I wrote to God on the last day of 2009. Although it is several years old it is a good reminder for all of us of how good God really is. I know I need to be reminded at times because life isn’t perfect, is it? But God doesn’t change.

The letter is pretty long but I hope you will be blessed by it and maybe take some time to write your own letter to God this New Year and reflect on 2013 and the blessings He has lavished on you or maybe you need to pour your heart out to Him in your brokenness and hope for a better year in 2014. God is in the business of making all things new 🙂 

Have a Happy New Year!!

embraceDear God,

Today is the last day in 2009.  I just wanted to reflect on this year. I never thought the worse thing I could ever do would turn into the best thing You could ever do. But Your word says you make ALL things beautiful. Not just something’s, but ALL.

You have done just that.

This year started with stress, stress in my job, discontent there. The worse musical I ever did with my students.  But you turned that around.  Good things were happening in my ministry at church, you never stopped using me. The kids were great, Meara did well in school, Kieran got cuter with each passing day.

Yet, my life with you was not intimate and that reflected into my marriage, didn’t it Lord?  I read my devotions, I read my Christian books. I had moments of seeing you a bit more clearly but it all too quickly faded away and I was left wanting more. I didn’t think I could find it in my current life. I figured things were they way they were forever.

My marriage lacked connection. I longed for connection-of course I did, I needed it from You.

But I went looking elsewhere.

I finally gave into Facebook and I knew I would find connection, it was a matter of time.  I fought Patrick so hard, he couldn’t understand. Why would he? He thought everything was fine and I guess I thought it was too. I wouldn’t fall again, I just wanted a little attention from somebody, I wanted to feel wanted by somebody other than the person that HAD to because he married me.

I found it, or so I thought.

 I believed every lie the enemy threw at me. How could I have been so blind?  But this is not a time for remorse. No, I want to rejoice in you.

Lord, out of my pit You saved me. My heart was hard but You were patient with me, You never gave up on me, You never walked away.

The amazing thing is You sent my husband to show me Your great love. I never knew what Patrick was truly made of until he jumped in the pit with me and started pushing me up out of it. How strong he was.

I fought him so hard, trying to break free, thinking I belonged in the pit of my despair, that he should just climb out and leave me there to my own devices. He didn’t, he could have, he had every reason to leave me there.

But he didn’t.  You made him so strong.

Little by little I clawed my way to the top of the pit. It did not happen over night, I slide down a few times and thought it might just be easier to stay, to stop trying. And I think there were times when Patrick thought the same thing, what’s the use, is it really worth this?

We kept on fighting, and finally I was at the top of the pit, with Patrick pushing me up and as my hand reached up over the edge for something to pull me completely out I felt Your hand grasp mine.  I looked up and saw Your eyes smiling down on me. I was covered in filth, nothing beautiful to behold, yet the King of Kings looked at me with so much love my breath caught. Then You knelt down and said, “I’ve been waiting for you, my beloved.”

Me? You were waiting for me? Why, after all I did. After all the lies I told, you waited for me?  Why Lord, why? You pulled me out and drew me into Your embrace and there I asked for forgiveness, I wept and I clung.

The journey did not end there, Patrick and have grown closer and more honest than ever before. I never thought I could have a marriage like I do. I didn’t know Patrick was such a warrior, but I see now he is everything I always dreamed of and You gave him to me. I also never knew such love from both of you. I thought I had to be perfect to get real love and since I knew I never could be perfect I thought I would never know real love.  

 I don’t have to be perfect.

Lord, my Father, my relationship with You is utterly the most important thing in my life.  I hate days when I don’t take time to talk to You or listen to You. I am sorry for those days.

I know what true love is now, I have tasted it and felt it. I never knew I could feel this way about You or that You felt this way about me. It amazes me and never stops.

You truly have taken the single worse thing I have ever done and used it for Your glory. I pray that You never stop using it for Your glory, I want my life to glorify You.

You are beautiful. My words simply cannot express all that I am feeling. But You know my heart. I know you can take anything and make something beautiful, You are so good.

Last night as I lay in bed I was overcome with joy. My life could be so different, You could have taken all of this away from me and that is what I deserved but You in your goodness did not. You took nothing away from me, in fact You gave me a new marriage and a better understanding of Your great love. 

I know I still don’t fully comprehend that, but I understand more than ever before. You have given me a greater vision for my life. You have given me so much more than I deserve.  Thank you is not enough.

2009 could have easily been the worse year of my life but once again you have proven that you take the broken and make something new.

Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.  See I am doing a new thing!  Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?  I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland.  Isaiah 43: 18-19

 You have done that in my life Lord. And now my new verse I am memorizing going into 2010 is this:

My purpose is that they may be encouraged in heart and united in love, so that they may have the full riches of complete understanding, in order that they may know the mystery of God, namely, Christ, in whom are hidden all the treasure of wisdom and knowledge. Colossians 2: 2-3

 I want that for the world Lord. Show me how to do that, I don’t want any other women to feel they have to steal love to get love. It is freely give from you. May 2010 be year I start to make that happen, with your power.

Thank your for you goodness, your great love that I will never deserve but I will forever be grateful for.

Thank you for your faithfulness.

Thank you for allowing this pain that I had to go through to get me to where I am now.

Thank you for giving me an amazing husband, the strongest man I know.

Thank you for loving him and empowering him to get through the worse suffering he has probably ever known.

Thank you for making him my warrior.

With ALL my heart….

Your Beloved, Melissa


Broken Identity by Sarah Jae Foster December 23, 2013

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Broken Identity


Sarah Jae Foster


A Christian woman has an affair.

It’s a betrayal beyond mention.

She stands to lose everything.

Mona Leigh Anderson, a good mother and even better wife, is unaware that her tidy and sheltered world is going to explode into a thousand pieces. And by her own hand, she launches the grenade of destruction.

Brian Anderson is a principled man, a leader in the church. Never in all his days did he believe his marriage could come to such a heart-rending testing of his faith, although this is exactly what he’s about to endure.

Damaged by deception and infidelity, Mona and Brian seek to repair the mistrust between them because that is the right thing to do. But can they truly let go of the past and of the most egregious of marital sins, and survive in this world of seduction?

My thoughts:

If you know my story you will know why I chose to review this book.

I have to say this book rocked me. I loved it and hated it. I hated it only because it was so real it made me remember when I was that woman and I didn’t like reading about her or the pain she put her husband through.

Yes, the book was that good, it was too real for me.

When I first started reading it I was rolling my eyes a bit because Brian, the husband, came off as too perfect and I was thinking if a husband is so perfect why would Mona cheat on him?

I am so glad I stuck with the book. By the end you realized that Mona was seeing her husband through her broken, shamefilled, eyes and making him perfect because all she sees is her sin. I have so been there.

It broke my heart to watch Mona slowly fade into a woman who would have an affair and I saw so much of me in her. It starts with insecurities on the inside and moves to trying to make her outside more appealing. She gets attention from a man and it just takes one small compromise that doesn’t seem like a big deal but then another compromise follows, and another and another. Soon that small compromise has snowballed into life changing choices.

My heart broke as I read about Brian discovering his wife’s infidelity and his choice to love her through it. I saw my husband in him and it made me sad to remember what I put him through.

But the book screams of redemption and God’s amazing grace and how He uses imperfect vessels like us to show that grace to other people.

I highly recommend this book whether you have had an affair or not. If you have it will remind you, or give you hope, that God’s grace is enough. If you haven’t had an affair it will give you a better understanding how a Christian woman can be deceived into falling into that sin.

Grab your copy at your local bookstore, Amazon, Barnes and Noble, or Books-A-Million.

An ebook copy of this book was given to me by the publisher through in exchange for an honest review.