A Message of Hope and Grace
Sometimes in our big-picture discussions about homosexuality and same-sex marriage, we lose sight of the person in the middle of the struggle. Whether that struggler is you or someone you care about, there are two fundamental questions that need to be answered: How can someone with same-sex attraction be faithful to Jesus? And how can everyone else support and encourage them in this pursuit?
With clarity and grace, author and pastor Ron Citlau will help you think through every option the Bible offers–and what it does not. Having personally dealt with same-sex attraction, walked with others still struggling, and pastored those with gay loved ones, he encourages readers to think deeply and biblically about heterosexual marriage, singleness, celibacy, and more.
Discover the remarkable gifts God provides to the same-sex-attracted Christian who desires to faithfully follow Jesus. And learn how others can come alongside them with love, encouragement, and grace.
Ron Citlau serves as senior pastor of Calvary Church near Chicago. Ron is co-author of Compassion Without Compromise (with Adam Barr) and helped produce curriculum on sexual healing now used by Desert Stream Ministries in hundreds of churches throughout the country. Ron lives with his wife, Amy, in Chicago.
What a powerful and timely book. This addresses some very important topics that I think we have trouble putting into words. This will give you language to address some things that, as Christians, we know isn’t God’s plan.
I do think the first step is admitting the homosexuality is a sin. If people aren’t there or don’t believe that they won’t even pay attention to this book. They may not have to even believe that it’s a sin but they need to be in a place where they are uncomfortable with that lifestyle. I feel if they are accepting that as their identity they won’t care what this book has say.
With that being said, it does give those that do believe it is sin a place to start, a way to dialogue about this topic.
It does boil down to identity. In the very beginning Ron says something I underlined. Page 32 he says, “Today, sexual identity seems to be tied up in sexual desire. If you have a desire for someone then that defines your sexual identity, and our work is to be true to one’s self and pursue that desire.” He’s not saying that is right but that is what the world has decided.
That would be like someone who is attracted to someone other then their husband saying, “I am just an adulteress. I can’t remain faithful to my husband so I am going to be with any man I chose.” Most of the world, Christian or not, agrees that is not okay. That is called cheating on someone. Just because you desire something you don’t have to make that your identity. Jesus can redeem that just as He can redeem any sin.
If you know someone struggling with same-sex attraction or you just want some things to think about regarding this issue this book is a great place to start.
A copy of this book was given to me by the publisher. All opinions are my own.